…Many clients ask me about the folks in my logo photo. It is in fact my parents, Donna and Daniel who have been married for over forty-five years. In fact, there are three couples in this photo who took their vows very seriously. Some of their stories are below. I love to share their stories with my clients who are so often confronted with tales of divorce. Perhaps we are all looking for inspiration in the wrong places. I recently attended a Mass that celebrated World Marriage Day which acknowledges marriage as a sacrament. At the Mass, married couples stood up and received a blessing, and were reminded that they serve as an example for single people. These folks serve as my example of extraordinary love and devotion. Maybe they will inspire you too.
Lucy and Dominick. April 23rd, 1938. My Grandmother survived her husband, who actually lived next door to him. At the time, my Grandfather Dominick, was dating another woman, but apparently he could not get Lucy out of his head. He often found himself staring at her legs while she sun bathed in the backyard. ”You want these legs?” Lucy asked Dominick, “You’re gonna’ to have to marry them.” And he did. Their marriage survived the death of one of their own children. Their union was loud, but they shared a fierce dependency – especially at Bingo.
Alva and John. February 20th, 1946. Alva survived her husband John who passed away in 2007. They met in New York City at the White Star Tavern shortly after WWII. My grandfather, who had served in Merrill’s Marauders, briefly chatted with Alva who at the time, was divorced with three children. When she and her girlfriend excused themselves to the Ladies’ Room, John told Alva, “I hope everything comes out okay.” It did. He went on to take care of Alva, her three children and together, they had four more children together. They have fourteen grandchildren and 13 great-grandchildren (and counting…)
Donna and Daniel. February 20th, 1966. My parents met at the RKO Keith’s Movie House, where they both worked as Ushers. They claim they married on the coldest day of the year. But the legendary story that has been told and retold, was the one that recounted the time after one of their many break ups. After a time apart, my father called Donna’s house to invite her to a New Year Eve’s Party. Unbeknownst to him, he called on the day of her engagement to another man. ”I’m sorry Danny,” my mother told my father, “you’re just too late.” But you are in fact, never too late. (A family motto.) Soon after, my mother broke her engagement off to the man who was never meant to be my father and reconnected with the man who is my father.
Marriage carries on, even past death. Unfortunately, ’til death do us part,’ is perhaps understood today as ’til death of this particular union.’ But marriage lasts even past our mortal lives. It is a commitment that actually can be achieved, done in style and done well. Too often we are told about Hollywood marriages ending quickly and suddenly. But marriages do last, in other places, all the time, in fact, it happens every day…
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